Ways to Keep Promises to Yourself
As parents, we make promises to our loved ones all the time and we feel guilty when we break them. Yet, we don’t feel the same way when we do it to ourselves. Really though, why is it so hard to keep promises we make to ourselves? It’s almost as if we completely forget how important it is, once we become parents, or at least it was for me. Not on purpose but it does tend to happen more times than not.
I started thinking about this the other day and it made me sad. I was feeling overwhelmed because my day had not gone as planned… and I had so much to do. But, this is real life for moms, right? I realized how easy it really is to push our needs, to-do’s, and promises to the bottom of the list. We get busy doing all the things for loved ones that it’s easy to pretend we never made the promise(s) in the first place. But, getting sad and even a little mad helped me really understand, the promises we make to ourselves are the most important ones. As a busy mom myself… I find those promises can be the ones that continue to give us hope and dreams.
We need to take self-promises as seriously as the ones we do for others. For many reasons but the most important ones are; so we continue to grow, (a little a day is better than nothing at all) and so our kids see that this action is always important. This action is not selfish. This action is what keeps us going. It motivates us to be better which makes those around us better.
Keep Those Promises
- Write them down — there is something about taking the time to write down a promise that changes your mindset. Then, the trick is simple, start. Write down those promises as soon as you wake up or the night before. Be consistent and intentional about what it is you are writing. Be sincere about what you want to accomplish.
- Keep it Short-term — try to focus on short-term goals. Keep them simple and to the point. Start with three items. Focus your energy on today. Take it day by day. And do the best you can.
- Stay accountable — keep your promises visible so you don’t forget about them. Don’t stop documenting a task even if they are the same each day. Do this until each promise becomes a habit. Keep doing it until you feel comfortable moving forward and adding one more item to the list. Find my free weekly promise sheet below.
Stay Focused & Accountable
When you write your promises down — take them seriously. Maybe you want to start working out three times a week. Write it down and start. It won’t be perfect at first and that’s OKAY. Have fun with it! How long can go without breaking a promise to yourself? Maybe join a group or invite a friend to start with you. Accountability is amazing when you are first starting out. This can push you, in a healthy way, to keep going when you’re having a bad day.
The Weekly Promise sheet has all the steps to set you up to be successful. The best part of this sheet is that it’s adaptable and simple enough to keep up with, no matter how busy life gets. And, if you don’t get it right today or tomorrow or everyday… Adjust, readjust and start again. Keep trying until you get it right. Because that is the lesson in all of this. We are not perfect, we make mistakes and will probably continue to do so. But, motherhood is about enjoying the imperfect moments, and what better way to do so than to keep those promises to ourselves, as we navigate mom life. Keep trying and don’t give up!
Remember to start today, keep going tomorrow and don’t stop until you make yourself proud! — xo, Sandra
PS — If you’re looking for ways to streamline your mornings click [HERE] for some of my favorite time-saving habits as a busy mama.